This time of back to school can be so difficult. You want to get your priorities straight and focus on your goals, but then there’s everyone else who’s blowing off their responsibilities until the last minute. Their way seems much better, enjoy the moment now and then just figure it out down the road.
Trust me, there will be times where you need to focus on what you want and get to grinding. If success was easy, then everyone would have it. Getting to where you want to go means that you will need to say no to movie night when you’re paper is due the next day or going out late when you know you need to be up early for your internship. Now here comes the FOMO.
For those of your who don’t know, FOMO stands for fear of missing out. AKA: watching your instagram fill with friends’ photos from Wednesday’s impromptu girls night while you’re at the library attempting to edit a paper. All of a sudden you want to throw the book out the window (literally) and avoid your responsibilities as well.
Sometimes you’ll just have to deal with this fear of missing out if you want to get ahead. If you hate staying up all night because you procrastinated or if you hate the feeling of not being prepared, you’re going to have to learn how to suck it up. You won’t be able to make every party, so focus on what’s best for you – put your needs before your attempts to keep up with everyone else.
Get Off Social Media
Really, you shouldn’t be on there anyways if you need to get anything done. Put your phone in another room, and set up timers or blockers for time-wasting sites like Facebook, Twitter, or CEO in Progress (JK don’t block me!). Stay Focused is a great Chrome add-on that you can use to avoid getting sucked in to whatever your favorite internet blackhole is. Stop focusing on what everyone else is doing and focus on what you are doing.
Remember Your Goals
It’s hard to fight FOMO if you don’t remember why you’re fighting it. Next time you think about meeting up with your friends and blowing off your responsibilities, think about that GPA goal or your grad school goal. Focus on what the end game is, not just what’s in front of you. You’ll realize how important you’re current action is to getting you where you want to go, and soon you won’t care what everyone else is doing.
Let’s be real, you aren’t going to be at everything. You won’t be able to hit up every happy hour, every movie night, every shopping trip. But you know what? Other people are missing out on stuff too. They’re missing out on the fun things that you do and dealing with the same FOMO as you. If you come to realize that you won’t be able to use every opportunity to have fun, then you’ll learn to enjoy the moment you’re in and embrace what’s happening right now.
The devil’s advocate portion – sometimes, you need to just be spontaneous and go HAVE FUN. You can afford to blow off your responsibilities every once in a while, just know that you will need to put in the effort to make it up later. The main idea is to know when it’s okay to miss out and when it’s okay to procrastinate, and let’s be real, it’s not 100% of the time in either direction.