The summer before my Senior year, I literally had no idea what I wanted to do. I applied for so many internships, fell in love with one and was heart broken when I didn’t get it. I didn’t want to banquet serve or work at the golf course like the summer before, and I couldn’t make myself go back and work at JCPenney like in high school. I was lost, confused, and aimless. Not wanting to waste my time but not wanting to work to the bone.
I think this was one of the most confusing and strange times in my life. I’ve always been driven, always had a plan, and always had a destination in mind. But not know was foreign territory for me. And because of this fact, it was a turning summer for me.
I ended up finding out about Chloe + Isabel, and fell in love with the idea of working for myself and being able to be in control of my own success. But it took soul searching before I could find that opportunity and be ready for it. In the end, it wasn’t the best fit for me, but I was grateful for everything that it gave me and what I learned from it (read about my experience here)
Moral of the story, when you’re lost, it doesn’t mean your wasting your time. Take this detour as a chance to grow, learn, and figure out where you want this new path to take you. Here are some of my tips for when you”re feeling like aimless.
Write. The best way for me to clear my head is to write. Take even 5 minutes a morning and just write. Anything and everything. Clear your head and let yourself focus on your future. I love journaling (check out my post about it here!), and I simply write 3 things I’m grateful for, 1 positive thing that happened the day before, and 1 thing I need to do to be successful today. It doesn’t take me long, but it gets me started on the write (ha!) path.
Exercise Regularly. Sometimes to get in control of the situation, it’s best to start with just one thing – your body! Get in the habit of working out or find an activity that you love to do and stick with it. It will help make you happier, healthier, and motivate you in all aspects. I personally love getting on the water and kayaking, playing tennis, or getting down on the mat and breakdancing – LOL JK I definitely meant yoga, no one wants to see these moves. Whatever it is, embrace it and love it – even if it is breakdancing.
Daydream. Or meditate, but day dream sounds more fun. Whatever you call it, imagine yourself in 5 or 10 years. Where are you? What are you doing? Are you happy? Then try to think of the best ways to get you there. When we’re stuck in this wandering mode sometimes we try to think of the quickest short term solution, but that can be so harmful in the long run. Focus on the end game and plan your life around that.
No matter how lost you are, trust me, we’ve all been there and flipped the map upside down a few times ourselves. The point is to remember that things work themselves out and to stay positive and motivated.